July, 22nd 2009

Hello to you all once again. Its becoming that time of year again….yes the dreaded back to school shopping.

My son is into the sporty kinda clothes and you know that can get real expensive. He isnt real hard to work with so that wont be no big deal when we go shopping together.

Now on the other hand…. my daughter is very very picky. Shes into that Hannah Montana crap and that gets very very expensive. And she loves all that hair crap and etc….. . Shes going to have to work with me lol.

I will let yall know how all that shopping crap goes lol. I am not looking forward to this.

Daily Pointer

Respect For A Child

Is it really that hard to look at your child as an equal?

Lets get real, I know that we all get caught up in moments where we push the fact that we are the parents and they are the child. Yes that needs to be said and understood.

I also think that alote of times us parents forget that our children have a heart beat just like us adults. Trying so hard to put your foot down just to get your point across when out of nowhere you lost the battle.

Children and teens wanna be excepted and have there feelings known. But alote of us are just to damn set in our ways to where we are going to forget that there feelings count to.

Yes you need to put your foot down when it is necessary. But don’t forget to hear your child’s thoughts and opinions too.

The moment you start ignoring how your kids feel or just treat them like they are only a small person and there points don’t count you will lose all respect that you had in the first place.

My point is…don’t forget that they have a voice also. Point plank, I don’t care if your a child nor an adult… respect is given when respect is earned.

Disagree or not, your not the only one who counts.

July, 21st 2009

I started a new single parents forum with Hope today. It seems it is something she has wanted to do for a while and same with me.

There are many many topics to choose from, like topics on parenting and different types of parenting, weight management, advice page, general topics, and so many others.

We hope to create a big community with the forum. We just have to get our names out there and see what happens and go from there. Dont hessitate to stop by and check it out please.

There are alote of parents out there struggling to get and find answers and we are hopeing to be the people to help them.

We will see how this all goes so please stop by and tell us what you think.       http://oceansapartparenting.myfastforum.org/

July,20th 2009

The kids hung out at there moms house and stayed the night. They had a great time.

My kids and thier mom does not have a very good relationship most of the time. I think it still has lots to do with the issues that happened through these past five years.

I will always encourage them to keep things set straight with there mom. If anything I know she tries and I know she loves those kids with every bit of her. Its just a hard sittuation sometimes.

My kids just crave attention and all they want is love all the time and sometimes people just dont get it or even care enough and I think that is wrong. Nothen wrong with going above and beyond for your child.

We will see how things go and develope.

July, 19th 2009

Just a day of cleaning I spose along with the kids yelling and fighting and my hair falling out I guess I had a good day all together lol.

What does it mean to fail as a parent???? I know people think I am being to hard on myself but no matter what I do I cant get controll over my sons weight. I will never stop tryen but it still makes me feel like crap that I cant fix this issue right away.

Amber has had weight issues to but she is growing outta it on her own thank god. So I dont have to worry so much about that, just have to have her on a decent eating plan and she will stay on track.

I have always struggled with my weight I just think its sad that my children do to. I will figure this out but damn it sucks at the moment.

Daily Pointer

I have always said to my children words of wisdom. I have installed the best i could in them. And one of the main things I teach them I am going to teach to you now.

ALWAYS RESPECT PEOPLE BUT NEVER RESPECT THOSE WHO DONT RESPECT YOU BACK.

My uncle always said those words to me and reminded me of those words before he died. Its simple… why go through life being a door mat? Stand up and have pride within yourself. Dont think just because someone has authority or a higher spot at the time that they have a right to make you feel disrespected. Just remember this…have respect for me or you will not have the privlage to be in my life.

You are a very important person and as all you make mistakes but it doesent mean you are any less than a person. Demand respect and you will be respected as long as you respect also.

July,18th 2009

Just 4 and a half months till Hope gets here. Nervous as hell but I am set on knowing all will go well. The more I think about it the more excited I get. Its just one of those things in life where you know its right. Shes taking a big risk to come here to be with me and I am going to make it worth it. When love comes to you… you cant just ignore it cause you could be giving up something that was meant to be. All I can say to you all is that when love finds you do not ignore it just because it doesent seem like the norm. It doesent matter what other people think, remember that.

Jordan and Amber had a good time today. They hung with there mom for a while and it seemed like they all had a good time.

My son put me in some really strange wrestling moves today and I cant say it was confortable lol. I got him back and water was involved lol got him good.

Amber just blows it all off, shes in her own little world at the moment. Only when shes tired or sad is when she wants me lol. But I will take whatever I can at this point. They are growing up way to fast.

July,17th 2009

It was kinda funny how I forgot it was Friday. Just been kinda blahhh lately so that may have explained it.

Did the typical stuff today,cleaned, budgets, cooked, laundry,spent time with Amber and Jordan but nothen to exciting going on lately.

Thinking its pretty bad no matter what you do theres never going to be respectful movies out there for children…never matters if its a cartoon or not, it just always  seems there is something not age appropriate going on. Thats the way this world is turning into I guess and theres not a damn thing we can do about it, all we can do is keep teaching our children respect and right from wrong and hope that it is enough so the world will not rub off on them.

I think most have forgotten what is important,people have been focusing on things that just arent important. Lets try to remember how things should be and just install these positive sittuations into our children, and maybe the future will be better off.

July,16th

Tryen to understand what life is really about. Fighting for love,happiness and just an all around normal life. I understand that taking chances can be scarey as hell most of the time. I cant be upset for the decions people make in there lifes to make them feel safe. I will fight like hell till the end to get what i want next to me. I will never stop. For the future I see is wonderfull and something I have wanted for years now. All i have to do is keep installing in her the love I feel for her and how I will keep her safe and with me next to her she will feel complete. Love is tricky but well worth taking chances. I will never say never I will keep going till the end.

Daily Pointer

When dealing with a upset and angry child remember you are the adult. You are the one who has to set the example.

A child is going to react to any sittuation just like an adult. When there to that point of tears pouring and anger…take control. There are many options you can take to calm that child down and fix the sittuation.

1. Sit them down and relax them by using breathing exercises.

2. Have them take time out to themselfes to allow them to calm down and think.

3. Allow them to take a walk to relax.

4. Sit them down and actually listen to them,let them vent and say how they feel (as long as they are respectful)

5. Let them call someone they trust so they can vent and get ideas.

Yes you are the parent but please rmember you are dealing with children not dirt.They are humans to and they have feelings just like me and you.

As long as they respect you while they are venting and keep a decent tone then you tell me why they shouldnt be able to say how they feel?

Just remember they matter to.